In This Unprecedented Time Take A Breath
The climate of anxiety is palpable, thick, almost tangible. In these moments it is of utmost importance to take a breath.
The holidays can be a challenging time for many people. As a society, we perceive these seasons as happy moments filled with gratitude and togetherness. However, research suggests that during the holidays, there are increased rates of mental disorders across the board, including anxiety, depression and eating disorders (EDs).
This time of year can be particularly overwhelming for those struggling with an eating disorder, as holidays tend to be centered around food. Below are some tips about how to prepare, plan and maintain recovery.
Recognize and Understand Your ED Behaviors
First, we need to identify triggers that have historically led to slip-ups (engaging in restricting for one meal or body-checking once a week) and potential relapse (fully engaging in eating disorder behaviors on a consistent basis, impairing daily functioning). When we can recognize this, we can find ways to prevent it and combat triggers.
Start the Conversation Early With Someone Safe
Talking about the holidays with family and friends you trust in advance helps create proper support and predictability – the foods, social events, and the family dynamics that are associated with them. It also helps keep you from feeling isolated.
In my experience, working with patients suffering from eating disorders, I have come to understand how much the disorder takes away from their world. As the body deteriorates, so do most of the things around them. Not because they aren’t loved or supported, but because the ED:
So TALK about it!! Having someone there to support you, to help you stay accountable and to help you challenge the eating disorder is critical during the holidays.
Communicate Major Triggers
Share topics with family and friends that might be particularly helpful to avoid as it relates to your eating disorder, especially if it might impede recovery. This may include sharing what hurtful comments might look like for someone struggling with an ED: “I can’t believe I ate this much,” “I feel like I’ve gained 50 lbs,” “I’m going to have to go on a major diet after the holidays”.
This will help create additional support structures for you.
Set Boundaries
You can also communicate these topics when you feel triggered. This will help set boundaries. In addition, don’t be afraid to walk away from a situation once you’ve noticed you’re approaching your threshold. A boundary can also be in the form of taking space and allowing yourself to process or taking recovery action such as going to a safe space where you can collect yourself and find some peace.
Get in the Right Mindset
Ahead of any family event of social gatherings at the holidays, help get yourself into a good frame of mind with active intentions and coping behaviors:
Create a Coping Skill Toolbox
During your family events, meals or gatherings, remind yourself about any coping skills learned in your recovery process and allow yourself easy access to these skills. These can include:
Practice Intuitive Eating
Don’t forget to continue listening to your body and paying attention to your hunger cues. Questions to ask yourself: “Am I still hungry or am I feeling full?”, “If I’m hungry, I’ll grab seconds, if I’m not, I don’t have to finish what’s on my plate.”
Expect the Unexpected
One of the most challenging aspects of the holiday season is that we can’t control other people’s behavior or what they will say! Comments related to your looks, or how much you are eating or not eating, or what you are eating, apply pressure or may hurt you in ways that many people don’t even realize.
Recognizing that your ED can be triggered by comments or conversations during this time can help you properly prepare your toolbox of coping skills.
Continue Treatment
Schedule therapy in advance for right before and right after the holidays. Stick to meal plans created by you and your treatment team, and stay active with prescribed medications.
The holidays can be a challenging time for those who struggle with eating disorders. However, by preparing early, understanding the triggers to look for, and creating safe spaces and environments that support your journey, you can minimize the chance of relapse.
Eating disorders are very serious mental illnesses that can have life-threatening consequences. If you think you or someone you know may be struggling with an eating disorder, please reach out to us.
The climate of anxiety is palpable, thick, almost tangible. In these moments it is of utmost importance to take a breath.
Living with anxiety can be hell but it doesn’t have to keep you stuck! Breath work continues to be a powerful way to induce calm under a number of circumstances.
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