There are various definitions of a sexless marriage. Some experts say that it occurs when spouses have not been intimate within a 6 to 12-month period. Others say it is having sex with your partner less than 10 times a year. Whatever the definition, it is clear that “sexless” marriage is a problem when one or both spouses are dissatisfied with the frequency of sexual relations.
It may be that your relationship became sexless, or there has been infidelity and affairs. You may have ended up in a sexless marriage or haven’t yet learned how to date and be in a relationship. You know you want a fulfilling relationship or sexuality that feels healthy for you, but you just don’t know how to get there.
Being in a happy sexless marriage can be equally, if not more frustrating than being in an unhappy relationship. If you and your spouse are wildly in love and prioritize spending time together as an important part of your relationship, why aren’t you connecting on a sexual level?
Not everyone is comfortable sharing the ins and outs of their lives with a stranger, but therapy can be beneficial. Whether you’re attending with your spouse or solo, a counselor can help you understand what’s going on in your relationship.
A successful relationship relies on trust and a secure connection in the same way dance partners rely on each other not to get dropped in the dirt. The safer you feel, the easier it is to dance freely knowing someone is there to catch you if you fall.
Laurie Poole interviews two long-time friends, who have known one another over 30 years, about the joys of life over 60. No topic is off limits as they share perspectives on sex, marriage, motherhood and careers. All three women share how their friendship has carried them through some of the most challenging times in their lives.
I think we are less tolerant of men expressing emotions; not being allowed to feel fear, failure or vulnerability. As women, we can feel locked out when they won’t “share” their feelings when truthfully many men don’t know how or don’t talk the same language. This is where therapy can help.
