Sexual feelings and attractions can change naturally for many people throughout their lives. Maybe who you find yourself intrigued by or interested in is not the same as who you were previously attracted to. Perhaps you struggle to figure out where you fit in the sea of identity options: queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, straight, and countless others. Maybe you find yourself less interested in sex or romance than others around you, and you’re wondering if you might be asexual, demisexual, aromantic, demiromantic, or somewhere else on the asexual or aromantic spectrums. Maybe you’re entirely unsure about all of this and want a space to explore and possibly figure things out.
Wherever you’re in your journey, you may find that exploring your feelings and attractions is crucial to your satisfaction, confidence, and sense of self. Questioning or exploring your identity is no sign of a problem, and you are the only person who can define your sexual identity. However, our therapists are skilled and knowledgeable in areas related to sexuality and sexual/romantic orientation can offer an intentional space for you to clarify desires, attractions, and identities. We also support you in navigating challenges navigating family conflicts, relationships, and a world that may be challenging or oppressive.
If you are questioning or exploring your gender, you’re not alone. Maybe you are in the process of learning, discovering, or questioning how you want to express your gender. Maybe you are trying to get support around your medical, physical, or social transition or gender dysphoria. Maybe you feel isolated, confused, or scared to face challenging relationships, family experiences, or social environments. Perhaps you have not yet shared these feelings or experiences with others, and you’d like support to have whatever conversations you want to have with others in your life about your gender. Maybe you want to find or more intensely feel the experiences of gender euphoria as you come into a deeper, fuller, or more comprehensive understanding of yourself.
We believe that the only person who can define your gender is you. Coming to know your feelings and thoughts about your gender identity (and possibly sharing that with others) is a highly personal experience and may feel overwhelming and vulnerable. We also think that having support from a supportive and affirming gender therapist can be incredibly helpful along the way. In therapy, you will have a space to focus on what your gender means to you and address any changes in your life or relationships. We will support you to gain insight into your process and what choices are right for you and can make referrals to medical professionals as needed.
While it is natural for parents to go into protection mode when your child is feeling anxious, sometimes your efforts to solve their problems or avoid triggers of anxiety and engineer worry-free environments may exacerbate the problem.
Aside from taking personal responsibility, the most effective and immediate thing you can do to improve your sexual functioning is to talk about it.
A healthy sexual narrative that is compatible with their values, with their view of themselves, and with their relationships.
