For those of you who have been cheated on, you know what we’re talking about. The constant, gnawing, gut-wrenching awareness that you’re not special anymore, that you’ve been abandoned for someone prettier, smarter, sexier than you. It sends the betrayed into a spiral of self-doubt, wondering about their worth, unable to completely trust well until healed. And it sends the betrayer into a similar whirlwind in their struggle to come to grips with how they’ve hurt another (usually accidentally).

Recovering from an affair is a messy business. We try to help each relationship no matter the circumstances. For the betrayed, rebuilding the ability to trust. For those who cheated, rebuilding their trustworthiness. These things take an exorbitant amount of courage, patience, and time well-spent to accomplish.

“The person who steps outside of the relationship wasn’t necessarily looking for someone else, but finding a part of themselves that they had not experienced, maybe ever or certainly in a long time, So, to be able to eventually talk with their spouse about what they found out about themselves through that third party and then how can they safely bring that part back to the relationship in a safe way is important and extremely delicate work.”