My Grief Through the Holidays
For the first time in 66 years, I won’t hear my mother’s voice on Christmas day. She died five months ago after a brief illness.
It’s typical for many of us to ponder over traditions in the fourth quarter of the year. However, the beauty of traditions is that they aren’t confined to a particular season—they can bloom at any moment. Rooted in our profound need to express pivotal experiences and transitions, traditions are fundamental to our humanity, shaping and preserving our essence. Traditions help us take time out from our routines and allow us to connect with someone or something. They offer us time for reflection, relaxation, and relief from the pressures of our daily lives. The outcome of traditions often results in feeling some degree of pleasure or joy.
When thinking of traditions, you can reflect on recreating old memories or creating new ones altogether. At times, trying to maintain old traditions may be painful or bring up difficult memories, but that is where you can create completely novel traditions tailored to yourself or your family dynamics. As life dances through its constant changes, traditions act as a compass, guiding us back to our roots, imparting values, and offering a grounding force.
For those who find it challenging to conjure up traditions, seeking inspiration from friends, acquaintances, or even a quick Google search can provide many ideas. I love the idea of sprinkling traditions throughout the year, and I wanted to share a few of my favorites with you!
Beyond mere enjoyment, traditions wield the power to instill structure, foster connections, and offer stability, all of which can positively impact our mental well-being. Often, traditions can help ease anxiety because they provide a sense of predictability and allow us to feel safe and comfortable. Traditions become a canvas for creating meaning, weaving a tapestry that binds us to our close-knit communities and the broader society, creating a warm cocoon of unity.
For the first time in 66 years, I won’t hear my mother’s voice on Christmas day. She died five months ago after a brief illness.
There is a tremendous amount of pressure to be “happy” at holiday time, to revel in the joy of the season when truth be told, it’s not much fun for many folks.
While the holidays are happy times for many families, they can also present opportunities for tension and conflict. The annoying sibling, the relative who drinks