Nurturing your teen’s self-esteem
We know self-esteem is vital in a teen’s life and that a healthy level makes it more likely they will be motivated to do their best and try new things.
Navigating the waters of adolescence can be tumultuous, both for teens and their caregivers. Recognizing the signs that suggest a young person might benefit from therapy is a pivotal first step towards providing them with the support they need to thrive.
A sudden shift in behavior can be one of the most glaring signs that an teenager might be struggling. This might manifest as unexplained aggression, a sudden lack of interest in previously enjoyed activities, or a drastic change in eating or sleeping patterns. These behaviors are a communication of their inner turmoil that they might not be able to express in words just yet. It’s important not to dismiss these changes as ‘just a phase’ without a deeper understanding of their root cause.
If your once social butterfly is now retreating into a cocoon, avoiding family gatherings, and spending excessive time alone, it could be a signal they’re grappling with issues they find hard to share. Teens often turn inward when faced with emotional distress, and while some solitude can be healthy, excessive isolation is a cry for help that should not be ignored.
A noticeable slip in grades or a sudden disinterest in schoolwork can indicate that your teen is facing challenges that extend beyond academic pressure. These changes can stem from a range of issues, including social stressors, family dynamics, or mental health struggles. While a conversation with them about their academic performance is pivotal, understanding the ‘why’ behind the shift is essential to offering the right support.
Frequent, vague complaints about physical ailments—headaches, stomachaches, or general malaise—that don’t have a clear medical cause can be signs of psychological distress. The body and mind are closely connected, and emotional pain can often manifest physically, especially in adolescents who might not have the language to articulate their internal experiences.
The gradual or sudden loss of interest in activities that once brought joy is a concerning sign. This shift might indicate that an adolescent is struggling with depression or anxiety. Pay attention to whether this withdrawal is a general trend or specific to certain activities, as it can offer clues to the underlying issues.
Anxiety and depression can exhibit in various ways, including persistent sadness, excessive worrying, or mood swings. These emotions are part of the human experience, but when they persist and interfere with daily life, they may signify a deeper issue. Teenagers may not always recognize these feelings as signs of a problem, making it vital for adults to step in with empathy and concern.
Increase in risk-taking behaviors, such as experimenting with substances, reckless driving, or unsafe sexual practices, can be a sign of underlying distress. These activities might be an attempt to escape negative feelings or to express a cry for attention. It’s crucial to approach these behaviors with concern rather than punishment, seeking to understand the pain behind the actions.
Adolescence is a pivotal time for developing self-identity, and struggles with self-esteem and body image can be prevalent. Negative self-talk, obsession with appearance, or changes in eating habits might indicate deeper issues with self-worth that can be addressed through therapeutic support.
While it’s not uncommon for teens to exhibit moodiness, a marked increase in anger or irritability can denote stress, frustration, or feeling overwhelmed. This emotional state can lead to conflict at home or school and might indicate your teenager is struggling with emotions they find difficult to control or understand.
An teenager’s inability to manage daily stress effectively can manifest in avoidance behaviors, breakdowns, or excessive worry about routine events. These coping challenges are often symptomatic of underlying anxiety or depression, highlighting a need for strategies to manage their emotional reactions to stress.
We know self-esteem is vital in a teen’s life and that a healthy level makes it more likely they will be motivated to do their best and try new things.
Remember that developmentally, teens fall victim to concrete thinking. I chalk it up to being part of the human experience; the inability to see past the facts, physical world, or this moment right here and now. And it’s not their fault. Their brain isn’t fully developed yet.
Do you worry about how your teenager is doing at school? Chances are they won’t tell you, in which case, you’ll be in the frustrating position of wanting to support them but being unable to. It’s a common problem for parents as their teenage children become more independent and remote, but fortunately, there are ways around it. Follow the simple tactics below to lift those barriers and re-kindle the bond between you. Once you’ve got your son or daughter chatting, you’ll be halfway to finding out how things are at school and supporting them as need be, which will follow on naturally.