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How to Manage Social Media Anxiety: Tips for a Healthier Online Presence

As a therapist, I’ve seen firsthand how social media can impact mental health. Many of my clients struggle with anxiety related to their online presence, and it’s a topic that is becoming increasingly important in our digital age. I want to share some strategies that can help manage social media anxiety and promote a healthier relationship with these platforms.

Understanding Social Media Anxiety

Social media anxiety is a form of stress that arises from using social media platforms. It can manifest as a fear of missing out (FOMO), comparing oneself to others, or feeling pressured to present a perfect image. These feelings can lead to significant anxiety and affect overall well-being.

Why Does Social Media Cause Anxiety?

Social media is designed to be engaging—and addictive. The constant stream of updates and notifications can create a sense of urgency and pressure. We see highlight reels of other people’s lives, which can make us feel inadequate or excluded. Understanding these dynamics is the first step in managing social media anxiety.

Tips for a Healthier Online Presence

  1. Set Boundaries

One of the most effective ways to manage social media anxiety is to set clear boundaries around your usage. This could mean setting specific times of the day when you check your accounts or limiting the amount of time you spend online. For example, you might decide to avoid social media for the first hour after you wake up or an hour before bed. Creating these boundaries can help reduce the constant pressure and allow you to engage with social media more mindfully.

  1. Curate Your Feed

Take control of what you see on your social media feeds. Unfollow or mute accounts that trigger negative feelings or anxiety. Instead, follow accounts that inspire you, make you laugh, or provide valuable information. Curating your feed can transform your social media experience from one of stress to one of enjoyment and inspiration.

  1. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness can be a powerful tool in managing social media anxiety. Before you open an app, take a moment to check in with yourself. Ask yourself why you’re logging on and what you hope to get out of the experience. While scrolling, periodically check in with your feelings. If you notice anxiety creeping in, take a break and do something offline that you enjoy.

  1. Engage Authentically

Social media can often feel like a performance, but it doesn’t have to be. Try to engage authentically with others. Share moments that matter to you, not just the ones that look good. Comment thoughtfully on friends’ posts and engage in meaningful conversations. Authentic engagement can make your social media experience more fulfilling and less anxiety-inducing.

  1. Limit Comparisons

It’s natural to compare ourselves to others, but social media can amplify this tendency. Remember that people usually share their highlights, not their everyday struggles. Try to focus on your own journey and achievements rather than comparing them to others. When you catch yourself in a comparison spiral, remind yourself that everyone’s path is different.

  1. Seek Support

If social media anxiety is significantly affecting your life, don’t hesitate to seek support. Talking to a therapist can help you develop coping strategies and address underlying issues. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to about your experiences can make a big difference.

  1. Take Breaks

It’s okay to take a break from social media altogether. A digital detox can help you reset and gain perspective. Use this time to reconnect with offline activities and people. When you return to social media, you might find that your relationship with it has changed for the better.

Final Thoughts

Managing social media anxiety is about finding a balance that works for you. By setting boundaries, curating your feed, practicing mindfulness, engaging authentically, limiting comparisons, seeking support, and taking breaks, you can create a healthier and more positive online presence. Remember, social media is a tool that should serve you, not the other way around. If you find that it’s causing more harm than good, it might be time to reassess how you’re using it. Your mental health is always the top priority.

Incorporating these strategies into your daily routine can help reduce anxiety and make your social media experience more enjoyable. As with any mental health strategy, consistency is key. Small, intentional changes can lead to significant improvements over time.

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Monica Miller, MS, LPC

I earned my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology with a minor in Political Science from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX. During my undergraduate studies, I served as a research assistant under Dr. Nancy Hamilton where I studied the intersection of chronic pain and emotional affect. After graduating, I worked in the medical field for several years before making the decision to return to SMU where I also earned a Master’s degree in Counseling. I completed coursework in play therapy, adolescent counseling, parenting education, and group counseling. I obtained my practicum and internship hours at the SMU Center For Family Counseling where I met with clients of all ages who presented with anxiety, depression, and trauma . In addition to my individual sessions with clients, I led counseling groups at the Non-Pareil Institute where I had the privilege of working with individuals on the Autism Spectrum. I also have extensive experience working with adolescents with body dysmorphia and disordered eating patterns.

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